Take Criticism The Right Way

What do you do when someone picks faults with what you do...do you feel angry or you keep your cool and stay calm? When was it last when your mother in law found fault with your cooking and you internally created a grudge for her saying she is always after finding your faults or when was it last when one of your good friends openly told you that you behaved awfully at a recent party at your friend's place and you ultimately concluded that your friend wasn’t that good after all and hence started avoiding him/her? Actually most of us do not take our criticisms in the right way, that is because we do not give a moment to it and give it a thought. Why not take these on a positive note and try and take advantage of this? Some of us always assume wrongly and take every criticism very personally but the fact remains that they are not criticizing you but your actions and there lies the difference.
Sometimes the criticism may be justifiable and sometimes not. Sometimes the people who criticize you have your interests at heart and trust me it’s the best way to know your faults because until and unless they interrupt any of our actions that’s not right how will we ever come to know that what we were doing all this while was something not appreciated by people around us? Try to look at it objectively and then decide whether to respond or not...if yes then how to respond.
Another category of people just either don’t notice or just ignore it. Now that shouldn’t be your behavior as sometimes listening to your criticism helps you to even understand yourself better and also help you improve yourself which in return changes you and your perception for the better. Listen to your critics before dismissing them outright. You may not like what you hear but take time to think about it and act accordingly. This will result in you gaining more respect and of course more self respect as well. Go ahead... be a sport and take things the right way!!!



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